Divorce is defined as a noun as “the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.” It is also a “separation of things things that were or ought to be connected.” As a verb, divorce is “to separate or dissociate (something) from something else.” In the biblical sense, Matthew 19:6 says “…What therefore God hath joined together let not man put asunder.” This is following the reiteration of the two flesh joining and becoming one flesh. The book of 1 Corinthians 7 says a lot concerning divorce and separation and remarriage. For starters verse 10-11 state “10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” The bible tells us in Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” In the old testament, we find that Moses granted divorce decrees due to the times. There was fornication, homosexuality, a multitude of sexual sin taking place. However, that turned into men putting their wives aside for any, and every little act – much like today. Malachi 2:16 addresses this: “For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for [one] covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.” This was His warning to Israel to stop this insane behavior of divorcement, especially without suitable cause.
What is suitable cause for divorce? Well, let’s search the scriptures. Matthew 19:9 Jesus is speaking to the Pharisees and He says, “…Whosoever shall put away his wife except it be for fornication…” In a conversation with my own dad, he put it this way: God knows the heart of man, He knows that being cheated on is the hardest thing that we as humans can forgive if at all. For me, I do not think it is impossible to forgive. It takes lots of work. You must be willing. If husbands are to love their wives as Christ hath loved the church, mustn’t they forgive all? And wives the same? Concerning divorce the bible also states in 1 Corinthians 7:15 “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.” The bible tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, however there are things that happen along the way. I am a living testimony to that. I fall into a variety of categories here, in fact.
The Lord hates divorce. So why are there so many divorces in the church? Divorce is not only common place in our society. Separation is also a problem. Separtion can be defined as “the state in which couples remain married but live apart; legal grounds for divorce.” As stated earlier, in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, if a couple separates, they must remain unmarried or be reconciled to one another. It is God’s will that man and wife remain married. It is His will that if a separation occurs that the two are reconciled to one another. He models the marriage relationship after His love for the church – a love that never ceases, a love that never fades. Christ would never desert His bride. Though His church at times has turned her back on her Bridegroom. His love never fails.
Husbands love your wives