To be a Virtuous Woman… This is my soul’s desire. I like the outline of these “Seven Principles of the Proverbs 31 Woman:”
- Reveres Christ.
- Loves, honors husband – or future husband for those wanting to become married. I also think this means carries yourself in such a way that honors Christ, respects yourself – if you are unmarried.
- Nurtures children.
- Disciplined keeper of the home.
- Contributes to finances of the home.
- Speaks wisdom, faithful instruction, develops godly friendships.
- Helps the community.
I am striving daily to be the Proverbs 31 Woman. I thought, for a while that being a “single-mother” and a two-time divorcee, I could never the Proverbs 31 Woman. I have discovered this way of thinking is false. I am not married, however I am a woman of virtue, I strive for it daily.
Traits of a Virtuous Woman are not only in what you see on the exterior, but it starts from the heart, and emanates out. I carry myself a certain way, because I have daughters, and I have a son. I need to be an example to them. Not only that, in my church, I am in a position of leadership, over the children and youth, I have to be mindful of my actions. From where do my actions originate? My heart! Keep thy heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life…
I strive to be a Woman of Virtue, not because I am seeking a husband. SN: On the contrary, I don’t believe women should pursue men. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22 KJV) As I was saying, haha, I strive to be a Woman of Virtue for my own personal life, and relationship with Christ. At the end of the day, I want to know that I did all that I could to be pleasing to Him, and not shameful. I want to bring Him honor. As an unmarried woman, my delights are solely for the Lord. He is the “Man of my life.” I rest in Him. I find comfort in Him. He takes care of my every need, and I am truly blessed! My children and I, have been blessed beyond measure! I always say, “I don’t deserve it.” I am going to stop saying that, if He saw fit to give it to me, I do deserve it. I am just going to say, THANK YOU, JESUS!
My children are so important to my desire to stay on track. We were reading Proverbs 11 the other day, and my son wanted a deeper understanding of reproof. I was sure we had dived into this word previously (maybe I just glossed over it), however, we defined it, and jumped into a discussion. It is imperative that I train my kids up in the way they should go, so that when they are older they will not depart. We take the time, each night to read the Bible, discuss along the way, and pray. We eat dinner as family every day – at the table! Haha, and we talk about our day, we go around the table and share positives and goals and what we learned. Some days this is tough for me! To find something positive, when life is happening? But they always fight to go first! These are the traditions I am leaving behind. When someone joins our table for dinner, they also have to share. You eat with us, you share with us! I pray my children call me blessed. Right now they call me “mommy,” “pretty,” “smart,” and tell me they “love me.” I am loved!
The greatest commission Christ could have given any population is to Husbands. I had two husbands. I had two abusive husbands cheat, leave me. I sought Pastoral counseling to resolve thoughts and feelings associated with the the last, he wanted to explore the first as well. Together, we came to the conclusion of me owning what was mine to own, and not taking on the responsibility of the full destruction of my first marriage, and my second, well, yeah… Pastor says I am free to marry again, if I should choose, and when I am ready. This with utilizing the tools at church, the classes, and Christian Based Advising, etc… I personally don’t know if that will ever happen – or if I am even open to it. The marrying, courting, coupling thing (obviously not in that order).