“Top tip 4: Sometimes you’re lying when you say nothing at all.” Alice Kuipers – 40 Things I Want To Tell You
I am guilty of this. Not always on purpose. Sometimes, my mind goes blank. Sometimes, I forget everything I want to say the moment I open my mouth to speak. Sometimes, I am too shy. Sometimes, I just don’t wanna speak at all! Sometimes, I have every excuse in the book why I don’t open my mouth at any given time. Sometimes, I have no excuse, I truly have nothing to say. However, I both agree and disagree, it can be lying when you say nothing at all. It can also be wisdom. Also, there is a time to speak… I think the lie comes in when you omit something to intentionally defraud or mislead someone.
Proverbs 17:27-28 KJV “He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.”
So, why am I writing about this? Well, I have a dilemma. I am usually quite bold – sometimes. I stand up for what’s right. I advocate for my children, others, and usually the underdog. I happen to be aware of a situation, where half of the truth has been told… Has the other half been omitted purposefully to defraud? So far, I have said nothing. As I am sure I will continue to do. Does this make me just as guilty?
I wonder why we do this as people? I suppose if you think you can get away with defrauding/fooling – no, that doesn’t sound right. If the other person doesn’t find out, it will be okay? It is never okay to be dishonest. Trust broken is difficult to repair. It’s as though there was no trust from the beginning? And the defrauded party who finds out – say something? Say nothing? Either way isn’t there a loss? A loss where there did not have to be… Perhaps I am looking too far into this. Maybe, I should just wait and see. I don’t have the full story after all. I’m sure all intentions were pure. “Giving the benefit of the doubt…” Who am I to withhold grace, when I’ve been given so much! When the time is right, and I open my mouth to speak, I pray my words are ordered by the Lord. And delivered gracefully, gently and lovingly. I pray that they are also received in kind.
*Original Photo ~ Be careful of half-truths you may find yourself the victim of the half that isn’t true. – Bishop Ray Trout