Some things never change. Different place, different people, same scenario.
Everyone’s a matchmaker. Apparently, I give off the appearance of needing/wanting a match? Or maybe my singleness makes them uncomfortable? If I told you who my matchmakers were this time, you may laugh, or question, What? Why? For me, I have to ask, “Are we seriously here again?” Yes, yes we are. But, there’s a difference… I’m in a different place than I was back then.
So, no lie, there I was minding my own business, when out of nowhere, I am asked about “Ted.” Who? “He’s really sweet, a great guy. Would you consider it – if he asked you?” Hah! That guy? Are you kidding me? “He’s really sweet.” Like me?! “He likes kids.” Like me?! He sounds like a peach, I’m not looking. “Yeah but, he’s really sweet, would you consider it? He’s single-single.” (What does that even mean?) If it means what I think it means, the last “Ted” some people tried to set me up with was also “single-single.” I feel threatened and cornered. I hate feeling like I’m at church and people are just trying to push me to someone. I either run the other way or just avoid the other person at all costs. Like, if I did have any attraction to you, it’s not going to show and now I will avoid you like the plague!
But, as for “Ted,” well, I have decided to neither run, nor avoid. Why run? Right? I can be an adult about this, maybe? I discovered that with the first “Ted,” we actually had a lot in common. He is a great person. Only, I suppose I discovered this too late. I was not in a place to date, or even think about it at the time “he was interested“. Once I got to know him… Well, what can you do?
I hate the feeling of any type of pressure. So, what better way than to remove some of the pressure than to be friends with “Ted?” It isn’t so much that I feel pressured one way or another to date or not to date. When it all boils down to it, I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to do. Besides, if I’m honest with myself, I don’t see it moving beyond friendship… (Says the gal who has only had a few brief conversations with “Ted.” And, no, that’s not why…) And, I’ve been wrong before…
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